Did you know that our DNA remembers the past in our cells even before conception? Do you know that some people have remembered their time in utero? Do you know that babies try to tell parents what their birth was like as soon as they can by their motions and sounds? Have you ever asked a child around the age of 2 - 3, what it was like in their mommy's tummy?
Babies who come into the world without any drugs enter wide-eyed and alert for an hour or more after birth. They tend to not cry, and they are relaxed. If the baby is handled with love, the baby tends to gain weight faster, grow taller, and develop muscle control and coordination faster than other babies.
In utero, researchers have noticed that babies withdraw during the amniotic fluid test. That is a shock reaction. Baby's cries are communication, as babies struggle to give a message to anyone listening. Freud discovered in the early 1900's that people in trances - remembered their births. He said memories are stored in the unconscious levels, where they go on influencing us for years. LeCron said that illness correlates to birth. Cheek said that gastrointestinal pathology relates to the mother not breastfeeding, that respiratory problems are related to anesthesia at birth or panic at delivery, that migraine headaches are related to forceps delivery and that female problems are related to feeling unwanted at birth.
Try asking your babies what their birth was like. You may be surprised to hear that their birth 'felt like love,' or that it 'hurt so bad'. What can a parent say? Use your imagination or just tell the child you hear what they are saying, or tell them you feel their pain, or tell them you care sooo much about them. Thinking and talking about birth can heal trauma.
book: Babies Remember Birth by David Chamberlain, PhD